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courtney alyce's avatar

“But seasons change, I guess. It was simply cold before you because that’s how winters are, and we spent our last year watching the frost creep back in” is so good. Truly the heart of this piece. Happy Solstice. May we lean into change, may we come out of this braver.

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nella's avatar

Here I am in my kitchen, trying to pour myself a cup of coffee with tears now actively streaming down my face. This piece spoke directly to some deep, dormant part of me, that didn't know it needed to hear its past pain echoed back to it from the outside. And with that - I too receive a fierce reminder of why I chose to become a beast myself. Thank you. ❤️

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paula c's avatar

made me think of “I’m your man” by Mitski. raw and beautiful, gracias ❤️‍🩹

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Kay Poyer's avatar

This song was absolutely a point of inspiration, thank you so much

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Katy's avatar

thaannnnnnk u queen for leaning into your raw festering wound to bless us w this. i felt every line.

i know u r cut open but my only shared knowledge is that rn u r out of practice w being alone, but pretty soon u wont be♥️so take naps and lay around and take walks and let time heal u sweet angel.

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mollie regan's avatar

this helped me before too

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still's avatar

Kay, you’re amazing. The timing of this couldn’t be sweeter. You know, two weeks earlier I also left the man I was with for almost 5 years and I haven’t stopped grieving. I have not reached the clarity of if what I did was right. But reading this made me tear up. I had made that choice to be a beast. I shall go be a beast. I’m glad you didn’t edit it!

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Barracooter's avatar

“But I’m happy outside,”

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Olivia Manning's avatar

“You always worried you were holding me back. I am sure now that you weren’t, you couldn’t – but I think you wanted to.” 💔

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mads's avatar

Kay, you have a true gift. I went through a very similar situation in March and broke up with my partner of almost 3 years. People kept asking me why I was sad. This is such an honest and accurate portrayal of something so complex and complicated but also really really simple. I’ve been thinking of you and I know your future is bright, because how could it not be??

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abby anila's avatar

“when a woman chooses herself she is forced to become a beast. I choose myself because if we met for the first time today, you would not choose me.” wowowow. your words are so visceral. thank you for this 🫀

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Supernova's avatar

Letting someone go when they didn’t do anything other than love a you that isn’t you anymore isn’t for the weak, and as someone who’s experienced that type of pain that is such a crushing feeling this is a beautiful piece Kay.

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mollie regan's avatar

i second this

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Micah Ballard's avatar

Breaking up with someone, especially someone you still have love for, is so hard. Feeling so tenderhearted for you rn.

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Grace's avatar

I have been on the other side of waiting for someone to end things, and yet I also see so much of myself in this piece. The love, the rawness, the ferocity. The bitterness. It is all there in the same place where some lover used to reside.

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Kay's avatar

I’ve been having a lot of guilt over how I hurt someone in the past because I wanted to maintain my independence and this helped me let go of some of that guilt. Thank you for your words

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Jozef's avatar

you never think your first love will be like the rest until you’re writing about it after a lousy rebound hook up. i’m sorry love, you deserved more. 🖤

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issa's avatar

i admire you SO much as a creator, as an artist, as a writer, as a woman, as a person. thank you for everything you share with us i feel so grateful to be in this little corner of the internet for you thank you for this piece thank you for brilliance thank you

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Stephen's avatar

I recently broke up with my long term partner. We always saw a-lot of ourselves in your relationship. This really speakers to me at the moment. I do feel a little like a dog who wriggled out of their own leash. Thank you for this

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